What Part Does the Woman Play?

that's wtf I'm talking about!!!!

So, let's have a real adult conversation right now, because I'm puzzled by a few things. SEX (yes, I said it). It's a HUGE aspect of our everyday lives. I know I'm not the only person who thinks about it, has it, and sometimes even obsesses over it. But we're not really here to talk about me and my sex life. What I'm curious to know is why society has presented so many conflicting views for women. Everybody knows that when it comes to sex, the man is supposed to be masculine and dominant. But what about the women?? We're raised to be submissive to the strong, powerful man in the bedroom and then we get older and we're taught to never relinquish any kind of control to a man. From my experiences and listening to my friends talk, it can turn out to be a pretty confusing ordeal. We're divided on whether we should scream and express the amazing-ness we're experiencing (if we're lucky) or just shut up and let him do what he's doing; for fear of blowing his head up. Personally, I don't mind relinquishing control in the bedroom. There is no bigger turn on than a man with nice, big, healthy arms taking care of his business in a way that's most enjoyable for me. I am not against submission in the bedroom at all. However, I am not against taking control either. What's wrong with being the dominant one and making him bend to your will every now and then? I'm a firm believer in doing what makes you feel good; and I don't believe in lying when it comes to matters that are so serious (like sex). So here's what I suggest as a solution to the problem of the woman's role in the bedroom: Go for it how you want to go for it. If it feels good to you, let him know, if it doesn't, then stop. And whether you're a fan of that 1950s, come-home-and-throw-you-across-the-bed kind of ordeal or tying him up to the headboard and having your way, GET IT DONE. Stop letting society dictate how you enjoy yourself in private. As a good friend of mine once told me, "It's not about society all the time. sometimes its just what u wanna do. Society will deal with your decisions and life will go on."

Tata,

T 

What Makes You a Lesbian?

Back in high school, I dated a couple of girls, and I even became sexually active with two of them. Since then, I've always considered myself bisexual. I still find women attractive, but I haven't been with one in years. I enjoy men, too. Am I just a straight girl masquerading?? I watched the most recent episode of Desperate Housewives a couple of days ago, and it posed some serious questions for me. If you don't know what's going on or just aren't a fan of the show, Katherine, one of the housewives, has recently had a sexual experience with her new roommate, who is a gorgeous retired stripper. When she asks her gay neighbors, Bob and Lee if this means she's a Lesbian now, Lee tells her that she isn't, using the phrase, "you can't switch from meat to fish overnight." Hmmph. That definitely puts a colorful spin on things.

So what's defined as being gay, and who comes up with this definition? When girls in college find themselves "experimenting" with their friends, are they undercover bisexuals, or are they just a little curious after one too many drinks? If you have sex with a girl, and the next day you're unsure about that, are you lying to yourself about something? I suppose the most pressing question is what makes you a lesbian? Is it shaving off all of your hair? Wearing men's clothes? Denying all of the things that make you a woman? I don't know. I can't really be sure if I'm bisexual by society's standards. I am sure that I like women. . . and men. But what does that mean?

One of my friends confided in me that her best friend was becoming bi-curious because they had been hanging around a lot. Is she gay? Has she always been leaning towards being with a woman? Even if its just sexually? In my own personal opinion, and I don't care if you agree or not. I think that at some point in a woman's limited life, she has feelings for another woman. They can be emotional or physical, but they are there. Some of us just happen to latch on to those feelings and make them our permanent ride of choice.

But back to my original question: What makes a woman a lesbian??? Anybody care to follow up on this topic?

Lady Love. . .That's Me

      Hi! My name is Tia and I have a million and one thoughts floating around my normal sized head. At least I think its normal-sized. I'm a member of the American society, and not necessarily proud of it. True we are the land of the free and we're hosted as the best country in the world, it doesn't stop me from feeling complete disgust when I'm reminded of the many injustices we still have to deal with today.
   I'm not political at all, but if I had to put myself into any category, I would be liberal. I believe that everybody, not just one specific group should be able to enjoy all of the freedoms spelled out in our beloved constitution. Gays should be able to marry, women should be allowed to make the choice on a matter that would impact their lives drastically, etc. Not only am I a liberal "politician," I am against the way our country forces individuals to feel the need to belong.
       I believe that people are like snowflakes. No two are alike. Out of 6.7 billion people in the world, not one of us was made in the exact image and likeness of another.  We're born different, and that's how we're supposed to travel our journey on Earth. Being different. Diversity is the spice of life. So why is our country so hung up on everybody being thin/built like a bodybuilder and rich as Donald Trump???? Thin is not always in with all situations, and though I'm definitely not against being rich, I don't think our society should be fueled by the desire to be the richest person in the world. It creates some pretty bad situations, if you haven't noticed. Our society is fucked up in so many different ways, and I'm here to remove the wool from everyone's eyes.
     Our magazines, most of the mainstream ones, are trash. I, like everyone else, read them, because they are entertaining. But it becomes a problem when our young men and women, still searching for ways to identify themselves, look to these pages for their values and views on life.
     Sex is great. And so are romantic relationships. But I don't think that these things should be toted as ways to identify yourself in our society. They are important, but not instrumental to human existence.So I'm here to start a movement. To publicize the other side of the spectrum. The other schools of thought that exist on the philosophy of Life in modern America.
      I love America, but its time to reconstruct this bitch. Seriously. That's what I'm all about :)